Your mind is the most powerful tool you have. Are you using yours correctly?
“If you correct your mind, the rest of your life will fall into place.” -Lao Tzu
Over the course of my life, I have found much truth in the statement above. And, when I began to take it seriously, my life began to change.
One example of the above are the life choices I made when it came to jobs and career paths. I always admired those who found success running their own businesses. My father was one such person. Yet, he did not recommend that I follow the same path. Instead he recommended the standard wisdom for that day and age; get a job with a good corporation, stay with it for 40 years, and retire with a good pension. Following his advice, I tried that path for the first half of my life. What I ended up doing was spending my time working jobs I usually did not care for hoping for promotion and advancement. Many of the companies I worked for fell victim to the outsourcing and corporate downsizing that became the trend of the 1980’s. Other of my companies went bankrupt. So much for a 40 year plan. But I still kept trying to make it as an employee in the corporate world, even though my inner passion was to create my own company. Why was this? Bad thinking on my own part.
You see, even though I wanted to found my own company, my immediate family always seemed to talk against it. “It’s too much risk,” they said. “You don’t have the skills needed to do this.” And, my personal favorite, “Salesmen are born, not made,” and, in their eyes, I was not born a salesman or a businessman. I unconsciously let all this negative programming go to my head and stay there for the first 40 years of my life. Then I faced a critical sink or swim moment that pushed me out of my safety zone.
In 2011 I found myself working a low paying job working 60 miles away from home. With the price of gas, I could barely afford to drive into work each day. We thought about moving closer to the job, but we loved our home in the country and were unwilling to sell out and move back to the concrete jungle of the city. Then my parents, who lived near by, began to show the symptoms of dementia and Alzheimer’s Disease. It became clear that someone in the family would have to step up to become a full time caregiver to my parents in their final days, and my wife and I stepped up to meet the challenge. With very few material resources, we had to find a way to generate incomes from home so that I could afford to be a full time caregiver. It was at this time that I began to see the wisdom in the above saying.
My wife and I tried a variety of ways to generate income while either working from home, or very near home. We began going to flea markets and finding low cost antiques we could resell on Ebay. Before quitting my low paying corporate job, I had begun hiring myself out doing lawn care services for people in my area; and I began to gear that enterprise up. We also tried building free websites offering consultancy services to people seeking spiritual advice and help. Some of these businesses failed, while others succeeded. And I found that, even though I was not born a salesman or a businessman, I could learn the skill sets needed if I applied myself and became willing to learn. In the end, It was that final push and drive to succeed that made all the difference.
Today I spend a few hours each day learning new things associated with home business. I scour the internet seeking out the top people in my fields and learning from them. I also spend some time each day doing meditation and work on affirmations. I am actively cutting that early “parental tape” I was raised with and replacing it with positive thoughts geared towards meeting the challenges of success. It’s been eight years now, and I feel like I’ve finally found my niche in life. Only by correcting my mind was any of this possible.
Are you dissatisfied in your life? Are you wondering what it will finally take for you to start living your dream? Then I suggest starting by doing the inner work needed to make sure you are using your mind correctly. Are you seeing things as they truly are, or are you seeing the world through the lens of your own self doubt and fears? Only you can answer these questions. And, it is only by asking them that you can begin to gather the self knowledge needed to find your own level of success in life. It’s hard work, but well worth the effort.
To Your Success,